(re)Defining Cheap Women
Everyone keeps asking: What is Cheap Women? So, I thought I would talk about what I think it is, now that we are a month in.
At first glance, it seems to be nothing more than a contest between friends. While it is that, it is so much more (that may be one of the cheesiest things I have ever typed). It is about looking at how we spend our money, and what we thing are 'needs'. Not spending money is one part of it, but the intent is actually not to stop spending. It is to identify what in our lives is truly worth spending on, knowing that we must choose. Gone are the days of spending money we do not have, in order to have things we want as well as spend on things that are actually important. If not spending money was the point, we would have made this for only a week, or month (where we know we can be successful!). Instead, we did 4 months, a chunk of time big enough to force us to make real changes, changes that will hopefully stick. Not enough time to get out of debt, but enough time to take a good, LONG, hard look at it, and hopefully come up with a plan.
I don't want to only take from people in this time. I want to give, but in more meaningful ways. I can't buy you a fun Tshirt, or take you to dinner (or go with you to dinner), but I can sit outside with you. Make you something. Have you to my house for apple juice and a movie. I can chip in and we can cook something cheap and fun together. Want to get free coffee and sit in a bookstore?...I am your woman. I do NOT want you to buy me things, I want you to still love me even though I am broke and can't do 'fun' (read: expensive) things with you.
So, to sum up (because I like for things to be nice and neat in the end):
This is about imagination and honesty. About giving, but not going into debt to do it. Deciding what is truly important and discerning my needs from my wants.
And about cool merch and a hip website, of course!
At first glance, it seems to be nothing more than a contest between friends. While it is that, it is so much more (that may be one of the cheesiest things I have ever typed). It is about looking at how we spend our money, and what we thing are 'needs'. Not spending money is one part of it, but the intent is actually not to stop spending. It is to identify what in our lives is truly worth spending on, knowing that we must choose. Gone are the days of spending money we do not have, in order to have things we want as well as spend on things that are actually important. If not spending money was the point, we would have made this for only a week, or month (where we know we can be successful!). Instead, we did 4 months, a chunk of time big enough to force us to make real changes, changes that will hopefully stick. Not enough time to get out of debt, but enough time to take a good, LONG, hard look at it, and hopefully come up with a plan.
I don't want to only take from people in this time. I want to give, but in more meaningful ways. I can't buy you a fun Tshirt, or take you to dinner (or go with you to dinner), but I can sit outside with you. Make you something. Have you to my house for apple juice and a movie. I can chip in and we can cook something cheap and fun together. Want to get free coffee and sit in a bookstore?...I am your woman. I do NOT want you to buy me things, I want you to still love me even though I am broke and can't do 'fun' (read: expensive) things with you.
So, to sum up (because I like for things to be nice and neat in the end):
This is about imagination and honesty. About giving, but not going into debt to do it. Deciding what is truly important and discerning my needs from my wants.
And about cool merch and a hip website, of course!
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